I know many people are blogging about this topic right now- but I seem to be in a different situation than most.

Plurk just announced a few days ago that Second Life is now considered a “country”, and then I found out World Of Warcraft is now one too! For those of you who aren’t on plurk, your location you pick your city, state, country- so now instead of the USA I can pick Second Life or World of Warcraft.

Why did they do this? Because there are *so* many avatars on Plurk. No seriously- there are hundreds of Second Lifers on there! This now makes it easier to find other second lifers as well! Time for celebration!

But here is where I have the issue. Yes, my account name is my second life name- but I only really did that because I’ve been in Second Life for well over 2 years- when I signed up for plurk I was actually on an SL break! Alexandra has basically become my online identity for everything because of the privacy behind it. But then again I also play World of Warcraft… and most of my plurks are about real life!!

Oh noes! Identity Crisis!

How is one to choose? I play both games pretty much equally nowadays, but technically my plurk account is of my SL toon, but again most of it is real life plurks…

*SCREAMS*

It’s like one of those doors that goes around in constant circles. I could sit here and knock down and support  all 3 options all day.

And I mean, what’s the big deal with putting your RL location in plurk? You already are using a fake name- are you afraid someone is going to come to your town and ask every person if they play SL and then if their name is [insert your SL name here]? Probably not, but I also understand that people want to be known as their avatar only.

And what about the WoWers? Would you put your server name as the city and then World of Warcraft as your country? What if you play on multiple realms? Do you have a pic of your character?

Not only do I have an identity crisis going on, but yesterday, there was also a debate on whether World of Warcraft and Second Life were going to be allies or enemies. Vint blogged about it here. ACK! Most of my friends on plurk are SLers, so I wouldn’t want to betray them- but at the same time my WoW time is so usually my stress free time. Do I fight with my friends to maintain peace? Or do I go against them to help defend WoW against SL?

I have to say though, if I was forced to choose I’d side with WoW. We have a much bigger population, and I refuse to let the drama whores clog up my drama-free game. Sorry guys! Yes, SL is the shit and what got me into “gaming” in the first place- but I keep falling back on WoW when I get bored or the drama gets to be too much- and then when I get bored of WoW I go to SL- find more drama- go back to WoW. Viscous circle ain’t it? The no-drama sort of appeals to me more, especially since all of my best friends in SL have my outside contact info.

So what am I going to do about my damn location? I’m keeping it as my RL one for now. I pretty much will tell anyone who asks, most of my friends on plurk have probably already visited my page to find out, and RL is supposed to come first right? I mean I plurk about it enough sheeesh.

Congrats to all of you who fought the war in getting Second Life added as a country. Imma stick with my RL one. Good luck trying to find me! [Oh wait- I has the little widget on this blog. Damn. Well- good luck to those who do not read my blog and want to be friends with other SLers!]

Hey all! Give my daughters Jen and Hails some new blog lovin! I helped them create it tonight and hopefully we will see lots of awesometastic stuff from there!

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**WARNING: THERE IS NUDITY ON THIS POST!**

OK so bare with me. I am no fashion blogger- never have been and never will be- BUT I love these tats too much to NOT share.

So, I’ve been wearing iNFLiCTS “Summer Calls” tattoos for awhile. They were my first full body ones and I love them to death. 

These new ones however are the ones I originally picked out. They are a little more detailed and Sypher talked me into getting the other ones to “start small” and make sure I liked em before blowing money on these babies.

I am now sporting “So Sparkle The Night” by iNFLiCT! I love them so much <3 here’s some piccys:

I love the uber attention to detail in these. The front is so pretty and feminine. I love butterflies and flowers (okay so I am a complete girly girl sometimes- so shoot me) and how they just wrap around everything.

Here’s the back: 

Okay so I’m not the biggest fan of the flying buttcheeks- but other than that I love em. Buns will be covered 99.99% of the time luckily. The owl scene on my back is drawn just amazingly (like the rest of it) and looks almost real.

The set also comes with a different option for the bottom half, not shown here.

My most favorite part is that iNFLiCT comes in ‘darkness’ options: light, medium, dark or tintable! This is the light version of them. 

I am so happy with them and hopefully you liked em too!

Check out the tat’s from iNFLiCT here. They are some of the best SL tats in SL that I have seen- perfect seams, wonderful drawings, and look great on the avie itself (not just the pics!)

Other Credits for all you wondering:

• Tattoos: So Sparkle the Night by iNFLiCT
• Glasses: Linea by PrimOptic
• Hair: Yvette blonde burnt by ETD
• Skin: Anna 09 Portrait skin by Laqroki
• Shape: Original by moi
• Eyes: (Starry-Eyed) Emerald by PixelDolls
• Poses from Boudoir Rouge set

I was tagged by Danni to do this 25 things meme. I will try not to overlap too much from the 16 Things meme, but I can’t promise anything! Some of these “things” will be RL and some will be SL… so here we go!

Rulezors are as follows: Once you’ve been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits, or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. You have to tag the person who tagged you. If I tagged you, it’s because I want to know more about you. (To do this, go to “notes” under tabs on your profile page, paste these instructions in the body of the note, type your 25 random things, tag 25 people (in the right hand corner of the app) then click publish.

25 Things You Didn’t Need to Know About Alexa, but will Find Out Anyways!

1. I am not a morning person at all, but at the same time breakfast is my favorite meal. Even if I get up at noon, I will still eat breakfast and call it such. My fav breakfast food is french toast!
    
2. I had this brown teddy when I was little, and one day his head got partially decapitated (the head fell off in the back, so it was hanging in front). I cried and screamed until my mom did surgery to fix him. I still have the bear to this day and he is still mah fav!
    
3. I danced for just about 10 years. I have taken ballet, tap, jazz, pointe, and ballroom classes. Yes, pointe is technically ballet, but it was separated from the normal ballet class due to the pointe shoes. Tap dancing is my fav do to it’s awesometastical stress relieving powers. Take a class for an hour where you bang on the floor? I’M THERE!
    
4.  I’ve been in SL since June 2006, and I’ve been in the “kids” SL world since January 2007. I wouldn’t change it for the world!
    
5. I can’t go to bed  unless my teeth are minty from toothpaste/listerine. If I brush my teeth and by the time I’m ready for bed they aren’t minty anymore, I have to go and re-brush them.
    
6. I am a creature of habit. I do nearly the same exact thing every morning and every night. The only exceptions are mornings where I don’t have classes or something to do shortly after waking up. If my routine gets messed up in any way, shape, or form- I freak out and the rest of my day is just awkward.
    
7.  I have the best freaking SL daughters in the entire world! They are not only my daughters but some of my favorite people in RL and my best friends! *sends them all smoochies*
    
8.  I am horribly addicted to SL, World of Warcraft and plurk.
    
9. I am a sarcastic bitch. This is how I was raised. My entire family is sarcastic- and if you don’t get/like sarcasm you would probably want to kill yourself if you ever came over my house. We torture new freinds/boyfriends that come over for dinz. You’ve been warned!
    
10. I hate fire alarms at my school. As I was writing this ours went off- we go outside and wait. And wait. And wait some more! Security comes out “There’s a problem with the building and we don’t know what it is” Wut? “you have to go somewhere else- could be about an hour” *stands in amazement for 30 seconds* fire alarm goes off and we can go in! Or another time when it went off at 4am and we had to be moved into the library for over an hour. 
     
11.  One time at a restaurant my sister’s bf found a bug in the bottom of his beer. Beer was empty when he found it. Instead of being totally disgusted my entire family was laughing hysterically and out of control. We ended up getting 50% off our meal or something. It was a good laugh and has gone down in the record books.
     
12. The only hair I wear in SL is by ETD in blonde-burnt flavor, I only wear one skin, and I not only made my shape but have had it since I rezzed. I love that people can recognize me by my look and not just the name tag floating above my head. That and I hate change LOL
     
13. I love and believe in the Supernatural. We actually think there’s a ghost in my attic that likes to throw suitcases at my brother.  My favorite show on tv is also Supernatural <3
     
14. Speaking of tv, I hate it most of the time and don’t watch it since I’d much rather be on the puter. The only shows I do watch are Supernatural, CSI (all types), medical shows, discovery channel, House, and only a few others that I’ll think about putting on. I do LOVE movies though!
     
15. DVR is a gift from god. My family would probably die without it.
     
16. I can’t be doing just one thing at a time, even while in WoW. I always have my main application going (SL or WoW) plus plurk and instant messengers while probably browsing a few sites as well.  
     
17. The only thing I’m really scared of is small spaces- but only ones that are unfamiliar to me. Spiders don’t bother me too much, I love snakes, and I think bats are the cyootest things evar! (I think that covers some of the most common fears) Needles don’t bother me either, like at all. The only thing that bothers me about shots is the burning sensation and soreness due to the vaccine. I am actually fascinated by getting my blood taken and sit there and watch. Glucose tests (for diabetes) don’t bother me either. No, I don’t have diabetes, but had these tests in AP&P a couple days ago.
     
18. I have way too many doctors for someone who is 20. They include my normal doctor, eye doctor, rheumatologist, gynocologist, dentist, chiropractor and neurologist who I visit on a regular basis. I’ve also been to orthopedists, pediatrist, and dermatologist. I’ve also had 12 months of physical therapy, 2 knee surgeries, multiple ingrown toenail removals, and a few weeks of occupational therapy. I’ve had an MRI on my head and both knees, tons o x-rays, echocardiogram, and many EKGs. All of this and I surprisingly don’t have any life-threatening illnesses (YAY!!!)- though I do have fibromyalgia and chronic migraines.
     
19. I love to travel. I have been to Florida, Wisconsin, Arizona, and every state in New England. Out of the country includes Barbados, Aruba, Russia, and Belarus. I liked Aruba more than Barbados but my Russia/Belarus trip was my fav!
     
20. Every summer my family hosts kids from the chernobyl region in russia/belarus. They spend the month of July in the USA for medical treatment and FUN! Summer of 2009 will be our 10th year hosting, and I honestly can’t remember what we did in the summer before we started hosting, my guess was it was very boring.
     
21.  My sister was born in December of 1990. That year my older brother had the chicken pox and chased me around the house until I got it. I did get it, and had it through Christmas. 
     
22. I have had lyme disease despite having the lyme disease vaccine. Only I could pull this off I think.
     
23. If I go to sleep upset- I usually either can’t sleep or have nightmares all night. Also, even when daydreaming I’ll always think of a cute scenario and things will go on and somehow always turn it into something morbid or horrible. I have no idea how or why I do this but it’s probably due to too many horror flicks plus CSI episodes (I just luffs them so much!)
     
24. I am a music FREAK! I love almost everything and always have some sort of music playing somewhere. I would probably die without my iPod too.
     
25. I am actually an extremely shy and paranoid person in RL. This is mostly due to how awkward I feel in my body since I’m always in pain from the fibro. It’s almost like what my brain says and what my body does is totally different so I’m always self conscious. I am, however, trying to fix this.

I tag: Danni (though she already did it- but it’s in teh rulezorz!), John, Misty, Velveeta, Loaf, Roxette, Smiley, The crew at SL Rev, and anyone else who happens to read this (Yes, that means YOU!!!!).

Stupid questions. Teachers/professors have always told me “There is no such thing as a stupid question”. Sorry, but I beg to differ. There are such things as stupid questions.

I first laughed about this when I saw one episode of Gilmore Girls way back and Lorelei wanted to ask Luke a question, and she said it’s stupid, and Luke responded with there are no stupid questions, and she sarcastically replied “How do pens work?” or something to that effect and Luke replies “Ok, so there are stupid questions, what was yours?” I don’t even remember what the original question was now, but that little tidbit has stuck with me for years.

Stupid questions really bother me. I know in reactions to some things, it’s almost an automated response, but there are some questions asked in certain classes/situations that I’m just sitting there thinking “this person can’t be serious right now” and almost want to come up with a sarcastic answer to mock them with.

Does this make me a bad person? I don’t know. I have probably asked some *really* stupid questions in my time- but for some reason they still bother me to no end.

For example, when you are trying to buy something, and hand the cashier a $20- and they respond “so you want this out of 20$?” I know that there have probably been people that hand them the wrong bill (such as a $20 when paying for something that’s $1), but I almost want to say “No, hold on, let me get out my $50 so you can make even more change”

Another one (more SL example)- when the ETD sale first gets put out and EVERYONE rushes there- I’ve gotten some “are you just looking?” “are you here for the sale?” No, I’m here because I LOVE going to ultra-laggy sims that are commercial and not for relaxing. SERIOUSLY people- only those going to the sale are going to go even if they end up walking like they’re in molasses- not your casual shopper or looker. Even those that were just there to look and didn’t know of the sale and ultra lag would probably quit trying when they find out the sim is filled or when they TP in and can’t move.

Or another. Sitting in the library with books and notebooks all around- someone looks at you and goes “Are you trying to study right now?” No, I just enjoy reading massive textbooks and doing research for fun!

This post is stemming from an incident tonight. My anatomy/physiology/pathophysiology (APP for short) lab was doing a blood glucose experiment. We had to come up with a procedure that could ultimately change the levels of your blood glucose. My group decided we wanted to test cold temperatures and the effects it has on blood glucose levels. I got to be one of the lucky people to sit outside for twenty minute increments x3 (testing our blood glucose every 20min with meters). Don’t ask why we decided to do this, the person that had the original idea got to stay INSIDE, the two that stayed outside (myself included) were the two that were probably going to bitch the least.

So one of my group partners and I are sitting outside in jeans and a tshirt on lab stools. It was 25F/-3.8C outside- aka COLD! Most  people stared at us with omgwtfbbq?! looks but a few responded.

Random student: OMG! Aren’t you guys cold???

Sarcastic response: No you silly person! We were actually so warm inside we decided to come outside with lab stools and chill out here in our tshirts. I actually shiver and convulse whenever I want to- not just when I’m cold.

Random professor: Is this for an experiment?

Sarcastic response: Nope. Our professor got REALLY mad at us so he took our jackets and threw us outside with some lab stools to think about what we had done since he was all out of dunce caps.

Next time you want to ask a question- think about it in your head for a second before it blurts out of your mouth. Ask yourself ”Do I already know the answer to this?” and if the answer is YES, don’t bother asking it.

Ironically, while outside shivering my partner and I realized three things:

1. He was probably having a hard time getting blood to come out of his finger to test glucose levels since we were outside in the cold. One of the first things your body does is start reducing blood flow to your extremeties.
2. We found no studies like this on humans because it would most likely be considered unethical and not pass a review board since there are risks such as hypothermia.
3. Never, ever, ever on your own free will volunteer to stay outside, sitting (aka can’t move around) for that long  in a tshirt when it is this cold. Whether it is for the love of science or not- just don’t do it!

*Grumbles and cuddles under blankets with some hot cocoa. *

Edit: The results of the experiment (if you were interested) were surprising. The control group (the two lucky assholes) had no significant change in their glucose levels (which is expected). We expected glucose levels to go down in the cold since your muscles would be shivering. What happened was after the first 20 minutes they only dropped slightly (we were also wearing sweatshirts) but could also be explained by the first exposure to cold and muscles using up the glucose real fast. After the second time outside glucose levels elevated dramatically. This can be accounted to glucagon (a hormone released by pancreas) starting to be released to break up glycogen stored in the liver into glucose, as well as stimulating your liver to make new glucose molecules. Both of those would increase the amount of glucose in your blood. After the 3rd trial outside our glucose levels dropped again, more dramatically this time- which we can say happened due to the glucose that was just released/made was used up already. 

If you didn’t understand that at all- glucose = simple sugar and your fast acting energy source. If it still boggles your mind you can either ask me about it OR just go along on your merry way I don’t expect many to understand that whole little explanation.

I love the kid world in SL. I’ve been apart of it since January 2007 in some way, shape, or form. I started out by running an adoption agency (which climbed up to one of the more popular ones), and then started adopting kids. Danni Ohara is my daughter who has been with me the longest (about 2ish years). My family has grown, shrunk, and now is grown to the biggest it’s been. I love them all to death and could rant and rave about them all day. I also have a kid avie and had a family there too.

I have run into a few bad apples- both kids and parents. This guide is for those who are thinking about being an SL parent or an SL kid, or maybe those who are in the system but would like tips on different situations. First, I’ll discuss the parent aspect, and at the end the kid side to this long story. Hopefully by the end of it you’ll have learned something and can come join our fun and whacky pg world!

I should say before I start this is not a guide as to *why* people chose this life, *why* people want to play kids- that is a topic for a whole different post!

For the Parents:

Before Adopting:

Before you decide to adopt you should really think of these following questions:

1. Why do I want to be an SL parent?  This is probably the most important question you could ask yourself. Is it because you just got married and want to have the perfect family? Do you want to make a special bond with someone? Whatever the reason is- make sure you are comitted to this. These kids *are* real people- they have real feelings, and they will get hurt if something happens.

2. How much time am I willing to spend with my new child? This is also important. Remember that kid avies aren’t allowed in most clubs and they are going to want to spend time with you. I suggest dedicating 25-50% (if not more) of your SL time to your kids. This can get hard and most kids will understand if you get busy (in both RL and if you have an SL career). At least make sure you message them everyday and what not. Lots of SL kids also have careers and what not in both RL and SL and that will affect things as well. Just know you are going to want to figure out how much time you are able to dedicate.

3. I am partnered, what will happen if we break up? Heaven forbid you do breakup (though seriously, 90% of SL relationships end up failing) have a plan on what happens to the kids if you do end up getting a divorce and what not. This is how I handle this sticky situation: If both mom and dad want to keep the kids- sit down and let them know that you will love them and be there for them no matter what, even if that means they want you to be their godparents or aunt/uncle. This is *key*. These kids *are* adults in RL- allow them to decide what they want to do in their own time. Do *not* drag them into the divorce- it’s emotional and hard but it’s very immature to do this. If they decide they want you *both* to still be their parents, let them flip flop. Love them no matter what happens. Do not abandon them. This is one of the biggest problems I’ve seen and it’s very easy to deal with.

4. I am single, what will happen if I partner? This is another issue I’ve seen alot. If you love your kids- make sure your new man or woman loves them just as much. Do not disappear from the kids lives when you find this new person. Talk to them and let them know you want alone time with your new person and that you will devote special time to them. Schedule this time and stick to it- also, keep messaging each other. Again, this is along the lines of these kids are real people too and not babydolls that talk.

5. What do I need before adopting? Have a bedroom picked out for your child and have a spare bedroom set for kids on hand. Do not get a super expensive one- get a gender-neutral bedroom set that is mod/copy/no trans. This will work during your trial period (which I’ll be talking about next) and make your new child feel at home!

6. Be patient. The perfect kid won’t come right away. Talk with lots of kids, explore interests, and be picky. See who you “click” with. Don’t worry- you’ll find someone!

Adoption happens!:

Congratulations! So you bring your new child home and now what? Here are a few tips on how to settle in nicely.

1. Have a trial of 1-2 weeks. This is sooo unbelievably important. This is the time when you get to know your new child and they get to know you. Go about this week as you normally would in SL other than that extra time you set aside for your new child. Talk lots, go exploring, figure out what kind of music each of you like, play, all that fun stuff!

2. Do *not* buy anything for them during the trial. This has to be my #1 rule and suggestion I could tell you. Not all kids are innocent- some *are* out there for money (I’ve had a few in the past). If you have an extended family- let them all know that there will be no buying of gifts for 1-2 weeks. Put out the bedroom set that you already have. If you really want to get them something- keep it under 300Ls and have it be a small welcoming gift like a necklace or a teddy bear. If the kids are serious about being kids they will accept this rule, if they tell you they aren’t there for money, do not stop this rule until the trial is over and you make your final decision. Kids that are out for money usually grab it in the first few days and run. This is usually devastating to the entire family and only having this rule will prevent it. If you decide to stay as a family after the 1-2 week trial, bring them out to buy a bedroom set they like and what not and have fun.

3. Remember: they are adults and can get $Ls themselves. Ok, it’s another money rant. I don’t give my kids an allowance because I keep in mind they are adults on the other end of the computer. Why do I do this? Because they know that I am not here to pay for everything. There are many jobs in SL kids can do (such as making a building shop, work at a kids club) or they can upload Ls themselves. You should want to be a family for the experience, not for the money. If you have the $Ls to spare and want to, go ahead and give them one. Just take one long pause and think of how you would feel if they left. If you would be too mad about all the $Ls you gave them if they left, don’t give them an allowance.

4. If you buy them anything, and give it to them, do *not* expect it back. This sounds obvious right? You would be surprised. Anything you give your new child is a *gift*, one that you should not expect back. If the child leaves for one reason or another- do not demand things back. This is totally immature. Think of it this way: If you and your friend from HS become distant and stop talking- would you call and demand that they give back everything you ever bought them? Probably not. Don’t do it here. If you want to give them a bedroom, but can’t bare to part with it if they leave, don’t give it to them. They will understand if you want to keep it yourself. If you give them clothes and jewlery though- don’t ask for it back. You gave it to them and just move on. It’s really hard, but it only causes even more pain.

5. Support them through everything.  Usually people play kids because they are lacking something in RL (or they just want to stay pg), so give them the attention they need. Be there for them if they need a shoulder to cry on, tell them how proud you are of them if they decide they want to learn how to build. Your child comes first- just like in RL- and pay attention to what they need. Counering that, they will understand if you are having problems in RL and will probably be there for you as well if you need it.

6. Don’t put up with bullshit. This sounds like it is the opposite of 5, but it’s not. Most kids in SL are well mannered, love you, and want to be by you. They aren’t rude and don’t cause drama. If you find out your child is a drama llama- tell them to stop. You became a parent to relax, have fun, and create a positive atmosphere- not to bring more drama into your life. There is a difference between having a hard time with something and need support and causing unnecessary drama. Trust me, you will know it when you see it. (That is, if you haven’t seen it in SL, and if you haven’t experienced drama in SL I have to wonder what rock you’re hiding under and join you.)

7. Be best friends. This is why I am still a mom in SL- my children have become my best friends and mean as much to me as my real life family. You would be amazed how strong a bond you can create with your new child. Have fun, lean on each other when you need it, and become inseperable. It really is one of the most fulfilling things you can do.

Last notes: 

1. RL does happen, and if for any reason it does and you have to leave SL, let your child know as soon as possible. Either they will stay by you or ask you permission to find a new family. Allow them to decide what they want to do and be there for them no matter what. 

2. Remember they are RL adults. Allow them to do what they want to do and when they want to do it. Have a few simple rules, such as no mature areas and what not, maybe no boyfriends/girlfriends. Decide as  you go. On the one hand you want to treat them like a kid and you should, but just keep it in your head they are an adult and can make the right choices.

3. If they have an adult alt- don’t stress. This is actually normal, sometimes they want to attend classes or something that don’t allow kid avies. Some kids have multiple kid avies- if they do and you are uncomfortable, let them know. There is nothing wrong in telling them that.

For the Kids:

Before Being Adopted:

1. Ask why do I want to be a kid? This is very important. If you want to remain PG at all times and avoid mature things (like strip clubs, dating) that’s a good thing. Most kids are kids for that reason. If it’s because you need more attention than most, that’s normal too. However, know that sometimes RL will come up and parents won’t be there as much as you’d like them and keep that in mind. If your reason is money- don’t. Noone will keep a money grabber. It is NOT the easy way out to getting Ls.

2. Experiment with being a kid. Don’t immediately go out to the adoption agency to get parents. Try going to a few kid places, make some friends, and make sure this kid thing is really for you.

3. Be patient. If you don’t get adopted right away, that’s okay. Hang around the adoption agency and meet parents. Don’t beg, show the potential parents your awesome personality. Talk with them, learn their interests, see if you “click”. You’ll find the right parents if you do just the right amount of looking.

Adoption Happens!

Congrats and welcome to your new home! Here are a few tips for making settling in all comfy.

1. Go through a normal trial period. 1Let them know you want to spend lots of time with them for 1-2 weeks before deciding anything final. Let them know that you are not expecting any gifts or anything and this is just to test how personalities will mesh.

2. Don’t be surprised if there are no gifts. If you read the top part- I advise parents not to spend any money the first 1-2 weeks for the trial. Respect this. Show them who you really are and that you are here for the relationship- not the money.

3. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. The only way you  will know if things will turn out is if you be yourself. Don’t be shy and talk, tell them how you feel. Let them support you. Let them into *your* SL and show them what you like to do.

4. If you feel like you’re being ignored- speak up. Do not let it go if they go a couple  days without even iming you. You are there to spend time with them- make them pay attention to you and hang out. If they decide they are “bored” of you- just leave and start the process over. It honestly isn’t worth staying around for people like that.

5. Respect when RL comes up. If your parents get a new RL job or soemething and can only spend limited time online for a week or two- respect that. A family sticks together through thick and thing, and once things calm down everything will go back to normal.

6. If your parents break up- don’t allow them to make you choose.  This isn’t fair on so many other levels. If they are adament about putting you in the middle- let them know you are not interested, and will not choose. Leave the situation, and start over. It sucks but if they cared, they wouldn’t put you through that drama. If you want to still be connected with them ask if it’s okay if they will be your godparents or aunt and uncle. Hopefully, they will agree.

7. If your RL comes up- talk about it. Let them know you will need a break but plan on coming back as their kid. Check in once and a while (if possible) and say hi. 

8. Be honest. If you have alts, let them know ASAP.  There is nothing wrong with having alts, but your parents deserve to know about them. Talk to them about it and make sure they really accept you for who you are.

9. If you’re having issues, are sad- let them know. Your parents are here to be your shoulder to cry on, to be your backbone, your support. If you are having troubles and need to talk- talk to them. They will support you through whatever rough time you are having.

Conclusion:

I think that’s all I have to say. Just be open and honest with each other. If you have any questions/comments or need help with any family issues- don’t be afraid to IM me in world (Alexandra Daikon). 9 times out of 10 I will be more than willing to help.

The kid world isn’t for everyone. It requires patience, understanding, and honesty. Remember that before creating your new family. Everyone you meet *is* a real person behind the screen with real emotions and feelings.

I wish you all the best of luck Remember to love each other and give hyoooooge huggies every day! Your family really will become the best of friends!

OH SNAP! Another post and another meme. This one I caught on Rik Pfalz and Roxette Wise’s blogs, as well as a few others, and since I’m bored I decided to do it.

So the challenge is to show off your SL houses…. Mine is big so here we go!

The Yard

Overview of the yard… pool, cabana, pillowtalk tree, tiki bar area

My new cabana from SHAG! I love it <3

Tiki bar dance area just added this today and I love how it’s coming out! Tiki bar I found on SLEX, I made the platform, dance ball from Rez Foo, and all the palm trees on the property owned by the sim owner.

The pool that Sy made with the palm trees and my fav hammock under it

Facing the house with the swingset (which is Danni’s, pillowtalk tree <3 and the house front!

The House

House front… it is the Serra House from ace’s spaces/park life. We’ve done some major mods to it though!

The living room. Most of the furniture in the house is made by me. That blue bench and painting isn’t though (got them like 2 years ago so don’t ask from where) Neither are the awesome flowers on the coffee table- those were by Ghost Harris

The Kitchen. I know it’s kind of silly to have in SL but I needed something to take up this space. Most of the kitchen is from home depoz, armoir thinger idk where, flowers are freebies, painting is from no clue.

Dining room. Picture by same person that made the other oil paintings in the house, dining room made by me, flowers on the table by Ghost Harris, and flowers in the corner are freebies

Picture wall. I made the build of it and it’s all pictures of the family

Upstairs Pictures by the same peeps

This is Sypher and my nook. Favorite spot in the house rug, chest, piccy thing by me, paintings by someone, and flowers by Ghost Harris.

Hailey’s room! Furniture by me. Furniture is very bright and loud since that’s how she is!

Jen’s room. Her fav color is blue.. hence the set all made by me (again)

Danni’s room! Furniture by me and then she has various awards/toys/posters out

Sid’s room… furniture by guess who and then she has other stuff out.

Balcony overlooking the yard. Another favorite spot of mine Swing is from The Tent Shop… it’s a great buy, awesome couple pose

Sooooo that’s the house, at least on ground level. We have some skyboxes up as well which include a play area for the kids (we have candyland, chutes and ladders, and a bouncy house up there), a movie room, building area, and a photostudio. I was far too lazy and lagging too bad to take pictures.

Hope you like and feel free to stop by!

LIKE ZOMG! I’M BACK! NO WAI!? WAI!I know I know I’ve been missing. We all need our breaks. Mine just took a little longer than most peoples. Suck it up

So where the hell have I been you ask? That’s a pretty damn good question. I may have an answer- one you may not like but it’s better than no answer

Real Life

I have been doing [a little] RL. I know- that thing that is beyond your puter. It’s a pretty weird place but was trying to get used to it. Matt and I are still together and I actually took ANOTHER trip out to Wisconsin to see him in August. Actually- I DROVE to see him. 1100 miles away too. Pretty impressive huh? I didn’t think I could do it but I did! Stayed overnight in Ohio too with a friend. (OH p.s. for those of you who don’t know I’m a total masshole.) I stayed for about a week and a half and it was total heaven. Met his two chicklets (who are 5 and 3) and they are wonderful as well

School has also started back up! I am a junior in college now :O how did the time go so fast??? Anyways- classes are awesome, but as most people know my roommates are assholes. There could be an entire post on why I hate them but it comes down to one simple thing: They are LOUD. Loud as hell to be exact. Like, keep me up at night loud which is insane. Enough about them though I has more to write.

Jobs- there aren’t any. I need a new puter and to start paying for stuff on my own BADLY- but no jobs. It sucks. Thank fking god Obama won. Nuff said.

Pain (physical- not emo) sucks. Hands getting worse. Still want doctors to give me pain pills and nada so far. Basically same as always.

Things with home are okay (mostly because I’m at school) but mom is realizing there are no jobs and it isn’t my fault. FINALLY god dammit.

Mmmkay. I think that’s all for real life that I can think of… NEXT!

World of Warcraft

Or should I say warcrack? You guess. Yes, that is where I have been hiding away from SL. Expansion comes out next week (WOO!) and I have managed to level TWO 70s in the few months I’ve been playing. I rock I know. Matt also has two 70s now too We are pretty much badass.

For you WoW geeks- I have a 70 blood elf beast mastery hunter and a 70 tauren resto druid. (for those of you who aren’t geeks you’re prolly sittin there like wut o.o?- dun worry I will try and not blab too much).

As you can see I have a few other toons made, some not even played. My 3rd and 4th fav are my shadow priest and protection warrior. They both rock pretty hardcore.

So why’d I go to WoW? Stressed out, away from drama, boyfriend plays it. Killing shit is a really freaking nice stress reliever. Try it sometime! Though, don’t try it on real people please, and if you do do NOT blame me for telling you xD

ANYWAYS kinda getting bored of it hence my return to SL.  Never thought you’d see the day huh? I think I just overkilled it a tad and miss some of my friends, and I think all the drama that made me leave has blown over- hence the return.

SL

So, return to SL… is this fer real? Yes it is. It seems on all my rezz day anniversaries I need a break from SL. Last years wasn’t nearly as long, but there was more drama this year and boyfriend has lasted longer. Be happy I’m back (or not if you hate me- meh dun care anymore)

Any catches to me coming back? Of course. Don’t expect me to get TOO involved in drama etc (we all know that won’t happen but I can hope). I’m going to try not to get uberously involved in crap (huge projects etc) Oh, and, not dating men either (emphasis on men). Have one in RL don’t need another in SL.

Annie (my mini me) will also be on lots too. If you must know her full name IM me. If not you can figure it out.

I will be trying to blog again (and don’t worry there is a rant already in my head about SL at the moment- so stay tuned for that) and you’ll see me in world. At nights I’ll mostly be in WoW when Matt is on, SL is basically going to rotate around his schedule. He is my #1 ya know

I AM still doing photoshop even though I don’t have the store anymore- Just IM me in world or drop me a notecard and we can set stuffage up

I do also still build so if you need anything made or want a quick how to don’t be afraid to ask

Ok, I think this post is freaking long enough. I promised JoJoBees a post before he woke up so here it is. Night all!

[Edit: I know when you click the pictures the box isn't coming up to view the regular size. No idea what is wrong but will try and fix it. All of the pictures here are on my flickr.]

Helloooooo my pretties!

I know I’m the slackiest of slackers when it comes to updates these days but my time in SL has been limited!

Drama has cooled since my HKE posts… funny how I didn’t get any IMs after the correction one *shrugs*

I’ve been on Alex not so much for a few different reasons… one being that one of my best friends has left SL, I don’t know what to do in SL anymore, I still come in to dance for Vie but other than that I am bored city…

OH OH OH AND! I got WoW back :O I am once again a World of Warcraft geek. A good friend of mine (well my boyfriend now) paid for me to re-activate my account for 3 months! I’ve been playing with him and am one level away from catching up to my old character. Mom h as also been playing so it has been teh awesomez! Warcraft is nowhere near the same thing as SL, but lately it has been good for me because it has been my stress reliever. Nothing like going on a game and just killing EVERYTHING you see to de-stress and with everything I’ve been dealing with with SL it has been great! Blood elf hunters FTW!

Last week I actually WORKED! I got a nanny job for my dentist :O they have 4 kids… 4, 6, 8, and 10, all boys except the 8 year old. I worked from the Monday till Thursday.. over 30 hours and made just over $300! Kids were great and well behaved and their mom is stay at home so I just basically had to run errands and keep them out of her hair while she got ready to go on vacation with them. Hopefully I’ll get to babysit more for them!

Speaking of new boyfriend… I am actually on a mini vacation right now! I flew to Wisconsin to come meet him and it has been fab I got here Tuesday late afternoon and flying back home Monday. Later today I’m going to go meet my SL momma <3 She only lives about a half hour from Matt. I haven’t been this happy in awhile.. going to be the worst going back home, but not going to think about that till Sunday

Anyways… need to find some way to entertain myself.. I’m sitting in a Panera Bread at the moment in Madison… Matt works right across the street. Normally I’d stay home but we have to pick up a rental car for me around 12 (which is in 2 hours and 15 minutes) then I can go home and get ready to meet momma! Wondering if this connection is fast enough to play SL or WoW…. we’ll find out!

Tootles!

Ok so I got some details wrong that I’ve been so corrected on…

The cheer coach is not the dance coach- but she still tried to put someone on the cheer squad without a tryout (though Jill denied her- but my point still stands she tried assuming it’d be ok)

The 3H teacher is the captain not the vice principal of the dance team, and the principal WAS picked but said no- I did not hear about that I just heard about her making it. (I still don’t find it fair even IF their routines were awesome- no there is no other school, but they still run it and should give other kids a shot- which is what Jill did)

The president was “punished” but still got to finish the race and didn’t have any major repercussions other than a smack on the back of her hand, an apology, and fix what she broke.

Supposedly that teacher didn’t wear bits (but I got that info from someone I trust who was at camp- maybe there were two people- who knows)

Yes, I did ask for a raise- but I was doing anywhere from 10-20 hours a week spending on the school for 250L/week- sorry that isn’t fair. I did say it was fine after she said “we don’t have the money- can you wait till next month?” Everyone I talked to said it wasn’t fair- I wasn’t alone.

Yes, the school is supposed to be fore the “experience” but it’s still my opinion that it’s a waste of time (as do other people- but they do it because it’s just something to do).

Did I mention they held an assembly about mah blog? Yes. Hold an assembly. That’s a good idea- just bring MORE attention to it- come on- you know you want to- let’s make such a big deal out of it so people know about it before their kids sign up- that’s a good plan.

What I find SO funny about all of this- is that NOBODY said anything about the harassment from a teacher to students, immature behavior, bi polar and unstable. That really shows a lot. Sorry- but I would think those would be the big things one would want to correct and not the meaningless things that probably don’t really matter at the end of the day.

kthxbai!